“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
- Fred Rogers, Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood
Impact. Whether we know it or not, each one of us has the ability to impact others in profound ways.
This is usually recognized for those who positively affect the masses through speaking to large audiences, television appearances or internet posts that go viral.
But most of the time it is done in ordinary ways, by ordinary people. It comes in our interaction with others, usually one person at time, when we show kindness and interest in another person and authentically share ourselves and help to make someone’s life just a little better by our presence.
There is probably nobody in my lifetime that I witnessed dem...
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears”
– Nelson Mandela
I recently watched, for the third or fourth time, the movie Invictus, starring Morgan Freeman and his amazing portrayal of Nelson Mandela.
The movie chronicles Mandela’s journey after he had been released from a 27-year prison sentence and would then emerge to become president of South Africa, beginning the process of healing and uniting the country’s 43 million citizens in the post-Apartheid area.
Mandela magically led this transformation through the use of continual forgiveness of those who had oppressed him, and his people and leveraging the pursuit of winning the World Cup tournament by South Africa’s National Rugby Team to unify his nation.
What was most inspiring to me was Mandela’s unwavering dedication to lead through example, even whe...
“Don’t chase after success, chase after capability. If you are capable of anything, then success will be chasing you.”
- Meme
I love the distinction from my good friend, Kelly Anne Zielinski, CEO of Self Leadership Global, often shares, “It is much more effective to hold someone capable, than to hold them accountable.”
In studying attributes of success in the world of leadership, the concept of accountability is often identified for its importance and effectiveness. Taking personal accountability for the choices we make, the actions we take and the results we achieve is a critical attribute of anyone looking to work as an effective leader.
However, when working with others in a leadership or coaching role, I have often found that “holding someone accountable” may not be the most effective way of inspiring and guiding them to achieve the results they desire.
A...
“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”
– Jean Shinoda Bolen
During many of these blog posts, I have discussed the importance of being of service to living an impactful and fulfilling life.
Specifically, when one combines what they love doing, with what they are great at and with that, provide a high degree of service to others, a recipe for a truly Championship Life can be realized.
However, while doing acts of service is an integral part of experiencing happiness and fulfillment in our lives, who is the one person we tend to take care of the least? Is it ourselves?
In fact, it’s been my experience that this is a very familiar trait, particularly with those who are in “service industries”, such as health care, human resources and customer service (to name just a few). However, tak...
“The great threat to success is not failure, it’s boredom.”
- James Clear
Throughout my over five decades as a martial arts instructor, I have had the honor of teach literally thousands of students. During this time, approximately 1,800 students have earned their Black Belts.
Of those students, I can think of only two students who when I first saw them, I knew they had everything it took to become a Black Belt and eventually did – only two.
Many others had naturally physical, mental and emotional capabilities such as balance, strength, power, flexibility, focus and tenacity. However, what I found is that for those whom martial arts came easily, they oftentimes quit because they felt it was too easy and that the routine became monotonous.
In his book, Mastery; The Keys to ...
“The moment you take responsibility for Everything in your life, is the moment you can change Anything in your life.”
- Hal Elrod
As a speaker, I am honored each year to share my Mind of a Champion message with wide variety of audiences. Groups range from elementary school children all the way to corporate leaders.
While it does take a diverse set of skills and strategies to be able to communicate with, and hold the attention of audiences of such a wide range, I believe that we are “all big kids anyway” and as a result the essence of my message if basically the same, regardless of the audiences to whom I am speaking. That message is:
There is a champion inside of you and when access it and take full accountability for your life, you can achieve anything you put your heart and mind to.
While I enjoy speaking to all assemblies of people, the one group ...
“It's very important that we re-learn the art of resting and relaxing. Not only does it help prevent the onset of many illnesses that develop through chronic tension and worrying; it allows us to clear our minds, focus, and find creative solutions to problems.”
- Thich Nhat Hanh
I am writing this blog for myself. My logic in sharing this publicly with you, is I actually might listen to my own coaching (as well as help some others along the way).
Like all of us, I have been blessed with specific talents that have served me quite well. However, I also have some very specific “areas of opportunity” that I could address to make myself more impactful, fulfilled and happy. One of those areas of opportunity is taking time to slow down and rest.
I am writing this after once again realizing that I have gone several weeks without truly taking a day off. It is said that nature abhors a vacuum a...
"Commit yourself to life-long learning. The most valuable asset you’ll ever have is your mind and what you put into it.”
- Brian Tracy
As I am writing this, I am reminded of a conference of entrepreneurial business leaders I attended in Dallas, several years ago. I was honored to be a keynote speaker at the event as well as share my corporate board breaking experience with those looking to “breakthrough” their fears and limiting beliefs and create the life and businesses they desire.
I have attended several business events like this during time as a professional martial arts school owner. The events I attended in the past were full of great ideas, strategies and inspirational messages being shared and this event was no different.
As in my past experiences, it always brightens my soul to watch people who are new to their businesses be so inspired and have their eyes opened...
“Focus 90% of your time on solutions and only 10% of your time on problems.”
- Anthony J. D’Angelo
Today, I was sitting and reflecting on the many people who have crossed my path who have made a positive impact on my life.
Some of these people have been with me my entire life and other times for a relatively brief period of time.
Interestingly enough, there is no correlation between time and the impact made. Even those who are in our lives for brief periods can have lasting impact.
One such person for me was Frank Jeffrey.
Immediately after graduating from college, I began my career with the Procter & Gamble Distributing Company and Frank was my first District Manager. Although I did not report directly to Frank, his presence in my career was very impactful as he served as a wise, kind and guiding mentor.
On my first day with the P&G Beauty Care Division Sales Divi...
“I would visualize things coming to me. It would just make me feel better. Visualization works if you work hard. That’s the thing. You can’t just visualize and go eat a sandwich.”
- Jim Carrey
Visualization combined with inspired action can be one of the most powerful tools in a leader’s toolbox for success.
When you look at elite-level athletes, you will notice that the difference between them in athletic talent is oftentimes so minuscule it is almost non-existent. It is the person who creates the trifecta of combining the power of their body, mind and spirit that will experience the greatest probability of powerful performance and victory.
If our hearts are the source of our desires, and our bodies are the vehicles to enact them physically, then your minds are the sculptors that help to make them a reality. Visualization is an incredibly powerful tool for creating...
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