“Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.”
                                                                 — Sonia Ricotti

So often, it’s not the events themselves that cause us the most pain—it’s the stories we tell ourselves about those events. It’s the judgments we make, the blame we assign, and the weight of resistance we carry that keep us stuck in suffering.

Life has a way of humbling us, stripping away the illusions we cling to so tightly—often just so it can rebuild us into someone stronger, wiser, and more compassionate.

I’ve experienced this firsthand.

The two most painful events in my life—losing my 11-year-old brother to a tragic drowning accident, and enduring the end of a 26-year marriage—brought me to my knees. I felt broken, uncertain if I had the strength to go on.

In those moments, I was angry. I blamed others. I blamed myself. I even blamed God.

But slowly, something began to shift. When I stopped fighting reality ...

“Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.”

- Sonia Ricotti

When we get honest with ourselves, most of the upset we experience in our lives is due not to what happens to us or what others have done to us, but to our perceptions, judgements, and stories we attach to these occurrences.

While there are instances in life that can seem devastating at the time they occur, it is my experience that once we move through, accept, and process these experiences, they are often the catalyst for our most valuable life lessons of growth and expansion.

The two most devasting events of my life were losing my 11-year-old brother to a drowning accident the summer before my senior year of high school and going through divorce after a 26-year relationship with my wife.

In both instances, I did not know if I had the strength to carry on.

I was hurt, frustrated, scared and angry. While in this state, I placed blame on others, on God, and even myself. It was ea...

“Surrender to what is.  Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.”

                                                                                              - Sonia Ricotti

When we get honest with ourselves, most of the upset we experience in our lives is due not to what happens to us or what others have done to us, but to our perceptions, judgements, and stories we attach to these occurrences. 

While there are instances in life that can seem devastating at the time they occur, it is my experience that once we move through, accept, and process these experiences, they are often the catalyst for our most valuable life lessons of growth and expansion.

The two most devasting events of my life were losing my 11-year-old brother to a drowning accident the summer before my senior year of high school and going through divorce after a 26-year relationship with my wife.

In both instances, I did not know if I had the strength to carry on. 

I was hurt, frustrated, sc...