"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see"
- Henry David Thoreau
It feels to me that we are currently living in a very reactive world.
In our technological age, information comes to us at warp speed and it seems that many times our reactions, both verbally and physically, happen so fast that we are not even conscious of how we are responding.
One may look no further than our current political environment to see this each and every day. Regardless of what side of the spectrum you find yourself on, reaction, often of the inflamed sort, seems to be the order of the day.
What this means to me is before we speak or take action regarding any situation that causes us to feel anger, fear or resentment, we take the time to access the situation before we respond.
Although it may seem like the right thing to do in the moment, reacting with unconscious words and/or actions of anger or attack usually brings additional discord to the situation and causes us to regret our actions later.
In working with my coaching clients (as well as myself) and speaking event audiences, I often take them through a process I call Forward Focus Discussion.
This is a process that allows us to assess any challenging situation so it may be dealt with a mindful and solution-based response. This exercise can be done with a partner who asks you the questions and just listens as you respond or done in solitude with your journal.
It goes something like this.
Creation vs Reaction. Interestingly, these words are only distinguished (when written) by the position of the letter "C".
Allow yourself to be controlled or influenced by what you see/"C" as unfair, overwhelming or worrisome and you will find yourself in reaCtion.
Mindfully look at the challenge and consciously see/"C" the situation for what it truly is and what you can do about it and move yourself into Creation.
The choice is yours.
Black Belt Leadership Speaking & Coaching
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